I left with the other how to move on with my life. What to do if a man leaves you? He was the initiator

In life, we all have to face various difficulties that, whether we like it or not, we need to be able to overcome in order to live on. However, some of them turn out to be so difficult that overcoming them without outside help turns out to be difficult, if not completely impossible. In this article we will talk about what to do for a woman who has been abandoned by her husband. Unfortunately, there are many women in this life whose husbands leave them, and no matter what the men themselves say when justifying their actions, women are not always to blame for this. But they are not to blame, and in such a situation something needs to be done - you need to somehow move on with your life. Let's see how.

So, what to do if your husband leaves you? The first thing you need to do is pay attention to your condition in order to take control of it. Girlfriends, relatives, psychologists can give you a lot of useful advice on what and how you should do in your situation, and many of these tips will really be useful and need to be heeded. But in order to not only listen to these tips, but also use them, you need to calm down and start thinking practically. There is no need for tears, no need for accusations against your husband or yourself, no need to complain to anyone about what happened to you - you need to accept reality as it is and start thinking about how you should live further. How to do this - how to calm down, how to extinguish your negative emotions that are corroding your soul? You know, this is one of the most difficult tasks that I have to solve when women whose husbands have left them turn to me for help. Here's how we do it with them:

Firstly, you need to change your attitude towards what happened and not assess your situation from an exclusively negative side. Your husband left you - is it good or bad? It's unknown! You cannot know for sure whether this is good or bad, you can only guess what consequences this act of your husband will lead to you and him. It is quite possible that this is good for you! This assumption, at a minimum, needs to be kept in mind. Since you are reading this article, you most likely think that it is bad that your husband left you, but you may be wrong. You may be wrong for many reasons, one of which is your ignorance of how your future life with him could turn out. You may view your husband leaving you as the loss of the person you need, but if you look at what happened from the other side, you may see other points that will lead you to completely different conclusions. Let's say, in some cases, a husband, instead of leaving his wife, who does not suit him in some way, beats her, and at the same time beats his children. And there are even cases that I personally have had to deal with, and even now sometimes I have to work with, when a man can even kill his entire family, his wife and children. It's terrible and doesn't happen often, but it does happen. And just imagine how crazy you have to be to do that. It would be better if the man left the family rather than take the life of his wife and children. Do you agree? Therefore, always try to think more broadly when assessing this or that life situation and never assess it only from the negative side. In this case, the contrast between what happened to you [husband left] and what could have happened [husband became a tyrant or even worse], if we take into account the worst case scenario, will calm you down a little. Just imagine this - a worse option, in which your husband would become a real tyrant for you, and compare it with what you have now, that is, with the fact that he left you, and feel the difference. This difference, if you think about it carefully, will become a kind of analgesic for your soul.

Secondly, after you realize that, quite possibly, not everything is as bad as you thought, and perhaps even very good, you will need to deal with the reason why your husband left you. This must be done in order to decide on your further actions. Perhaps you are more to blame for this, perhaps he, or both of you made an equal contribution to your separation, or perhaps yours simply wanted to live a new life and therefore left for another woman, more interesting from his point of view, because he he wanted it that way, but he told you that it was you who were to blame for his departure. This often happens when a husband leaves his wife for another woman and at the same time blames his wife for his departure, who in reality is not to blame for anything. Or he could simply run away, not so much from you, but from the difficulties that he did not want to overcome with you. Some men, damn them, are running away from material difficulties, from pregnant wives, from their children, whom they do not want to feed and raise. Yes, dear women, there are such cowardly egoists who think only about themselves and give up at the first difficulties. So then think about what to do if your husband and child left you, that is, if he left your woman at the most difficult moment. There are many such scoundrels, unfortunately. So, dear women, there is definitely no need to return such a man. There will be little benefit from him, a lot of harm, and besides, at any moment he can betray you again. So do not refer to love-carrots - if you cannot forget your scoundrel husband - turn to specialists for help, let them help you get rid of this painful and harmful attachment to an unreliable person.

Well, if the reason for his departure really lies in you, and you yourself understand this, then you need to analyze all your mistakes that you have made in order to correct those that can be corrected and prevent them from happening in the future. Just, you know what, dear women, don’t rush to conclusions regarding the degree of your guilt in what happened. Find the strength within yourself and carefully analyze your entire life recently. Think ten times about the reasons that you think forced your husband to leave you before making final conclusions about them. And if necessary, then think eleven or twelve times. Are these reasons even reasonable? Is there something in them that can be challenged, that can be doubted, that needs to be thought about better in order to understand everything? After all, you cannot trust your husband in this matter. He, as I said above, can say anything to you, placing all the blame for his action on you. By this he can justify himself in your and in his own eyes. So, you need to think carefully about each reason that, from your point of view and from the point of view of your husband, made him leave you, before deciding on the degree of your guilt in what happened. If it is difficult for you to understand the reasons for what happened, and this often happens, then seek help from a psychologist, let him help you understand why your husband left you. I assure you, in such cases, the opinion of a psychologist is much more objective than the opinion of the woman herself, who, due to emotions, tends to talk about herself and her husband very superficially. And even more so, it will be much more objective than the opinion of her friends, who, guided by female solidarity, can simply take the side of their beloved friend and begin to blame everything on the man who left her, without going into any details of what happened. Or, on the contrary, they may, for various reasons, condemn their friend, unreasonably considering her to be the culprit for her husband’s departure. Girlfriends are different, and they also have their own interests. Understand that depending on who is to blame for your husband leaving you, your further actions will depend. Therefore, this issue should be taken very seriously.

Thirdly, when you find out, with the help of a psychologist, or with the help of an independent analysis of your situation, why your husband left you, you need to decide what to do next. Should he be returned and can he be returned, or should he look for a new man? You need to think carefully about this. In any case, there is no need to rush, there is no need to immediately rush to do something - bring back your old husband or look for a new one. We have to wait. Now your task is to calm down, and only then you will need to take action. For now, for a better understanding of what happened, write down everything that was said above on paper. Write down all the positive and negative aspects of your husband's actions. What's wrong with him leaving you? So what's so good about it? Just don’t say that there is nothing good in this - I won’t believe it. Write also about in which case living with your husband could be a worse alternative for you to leaving him. Remember what I wrote at the beginning of the article, when I said that there are tyrant husbands, life with whom is like hell? Now, imagine that your husband is just such a person [and perhaps he really was like that] - a tyrant who, having left you, made you a free woman! Well, write about the reasons for what happened. What are you to blame for, what is he to blame for, and be sure to explain why he is to blame for something and why you are to blame for something. On paper, all your thoughts will become more organized and clear, and by focusing your attention on them - you will begin to calm down - your emotions will begin to cut out and fade away. And this is exactly what you need now. Calm, only calm, everything will work out only when you calm down.

Please pay your attention to one more thing - if a woman is abandoned by her husband, this does not mean at all that there is something wrong with her. It doesn’t matter, you hear – it doesn’t matter what your husband told you about you when he left! His opinion is just his opinion; it can be based on anything, including his own selfish interests. So I ask you to refrain from low self-esteem, because the opinion of one man, especially if he is the wrong man, is not true. Think well of yourself, no matter how much you contributed to the breakdown of your family. You will always have time to realize and correct your mistakes, but now you definitely need to maintain your resilience. It is important for me to gather you, gather your heart and soul, wipe your tears, cheer you up, give you back your self-confidence, reassure you and set you up for the further struggle for a better life. Help me with this. Please. Then, even if the devil himself crawls out of the underworld, you will be able to cope with him! And you’ll even survive your husband’s departure. All the best is ahead of you, life, you know, is a striped thing, so the current black stripe will definitely be followed by a bright light stripe. And in general, who said that now you have a bad streak in your life? Everything must be treated with understanding. Everything that happens in our lives is for the better! If your husband left you, then that’s how it should be. That's what you need! And all these stripes of life exist only in our mind, it is we who paint them in different colors, including dark ones. But in reality, life does not have flowers - it simply exists. So let's not see other people's actions as a problem for ourselves, let's see them as new opportunities. Now, after your husband has left you, you are a free woman, and this, you know, is a good opportunity to build a new life. You definitely need to use it!

As for your actions, you should under no circumstances immediately look for a replacement for your husband. And you won’t be able to do this until you, so to speak, come to your senses. You need to wait a little to restore your emotional strength and approach this matter calmly, thoughtfully, and with all responsibility. After all, your future fate will depend on your choice. Often depressed, confused, unsettled by the departure of their husband, women are unable to adequately perceive reality for some time. Therefore, there is a high probability that without recovering psychologically, a woman may run into a rogue, trying to fill the void left by her husband’s departure. So don't rush, everything has its time. Rest, think carefully about what your future life should be like, what kind of man you need, where you can find him, how you can interest him. In general, you need to approach your further actions thoughtfully. Don’t be afraid, everything will be fine with you - you will eventually find a new man for yourself, arrange your life, and forget the husband who abandoned you. Because it all depends on you. And since everything depends on you, you don’t need to fear for your future - it will be exactly the way you make it. Decide to suffer and shed tears - you will suffer and shed tears, but if you begin to act decisively, thoughtfully and purposefully - you will come to a happy life.

In that case, dear ladies, if your husband left you due to your fault, and you want to return him, then before doing this, be sure to carefully study all the mistakes you have made. These mistakes will show you your shortcomings that you will need to correct. You need to change, you know? You can't just tell your husband that you won't misbehave anymore and that's why he needs to come back to you. Be an adult, mistakes must not only be admitted, but also corrected, and, more importantly, eliminate the possibility of making them in the future. Without this work on yourself, you don’t even have to try to get your husband back. Until you change - truly change, inside yourself, your husband will not return to you. And in order to change, you, again, need to calm down, carefully study all the negative aspects of your character, study your behavior, because of which your husband left you, and then begin to methodically and consistently correct all your shortcomings. And only after this can you invite your husband to return to you. If he loves you, he will not rush to find a replacement for you, he will give you a chance to correct your shortcomings. And if not, if he doesn’t love you, then there’s no point in returning him. He'll leave later anyway.

Finally, I want to tell you, dear women, that any, I emphasize, any woman in any situation can arrange her life. My husband's departure is not the end - it's the beginning! This is the beginning of a new life! There is no need to be afraid of anything, no need to cry, get angry, go into depression, close yourself off from the outside world, hate all men, and so on. All these negative thoughts and emotions will only harm you. Fear, anger, hatred, depression are your enemies. They don't allow you to see the opportunities in front of you. Having dealt with these enemies with the help of your mind, you will survive any difficulties and adversities. Life is arranged in such a way that the best in it is ahead! You just need to be able to take advantage of the opportunities life gives you. Which I hope you will do.

If a man has abandoned you, psychological help can be very useful to you, especially if it seems to you that the whole world has lost its significance, everything has become gray and unpleasant, turned away from you, covered its face. There is no enthusiasm, complete apathy arises, and the soul and thoughts constantly replay the past in memories, return to the moments when you were together, look for mistakes made, and constantly replay them in your head... You think: after all, everything could have been fixed if I hadn’t ...Then he would be with me, he would hold my hand again, he would smile at me again and look with that tender gaze - he would be mine. The first rule here is: don't blame yourself. What happened happened, it can’t be brought back. Often, we blame ourselves for things we shouldn’t, and by doing this we only create psychological difficulties, discomfort for ourselves and lose our peace of mind. Even if you really made cardinal mistakes, take this as a lesson so that next time this does not happen in a relationship. Throughout your life you need to strive for the ideal, look for yourself in this world, and correct your mistakes. After all, it is from them that we learn best. And in most cases, no one is to blame for the fact that the relationship ended or the man left you. It just so happened that the relationship has exhausted itself, the love has left, or it turned out that you are simply not the people who need each other. Take this for granted and take the news calmly: after all, it often happens that a young man left you not because you are guilty of something, but because he is more proactive and noticed earlier that nothing would come of this union . It is better to look for someone new, to start a new life, than to suffer and look for mistakes in an old relationship without getting any pleasure from it.

Psychologists advise that in the first period of time when a man leaves you, do not hold back negative emotions and let them spill out. Allow yourself to cry if you want, don’t hold yourself back, because tears have many functions for the body, including psychological help and emotional release that you need. The first few hours after a breakup are the most painful. A culmination of negative feelings occurs, a person suffers from the news he hears, is stressed, later, thinks about everything that happened before, looks for ways to change something, thinks about what to do next.

Every girl reacts differently when a man leaves her. It depends on temperament, attachment to a loved one, psychological state at the time of separation, the psychological mood of the girl, how much she loved the young man. Her age, experience and self-esteem also play a role.

If the breakup was particularly painful for you (apathy, stress, anxiety, lack of appetite, suicidal risk, insomnia), it is best to consult a psychologist or psychotherapist for psychological help. Such people are professionals in their field and will help you get rid of your dependence on your love object as quickly and effectively as possible. A psychologist will not give you advice like your friend or mother, reasoning emotionally and irrationally. He will help you understand yourself, explain your problems and push you to resolve this situation. If you notice that the symptoms are more pronounced and can also develop into depression, it is better to consult a doctor.

In order to abstract yourself from unpleasant thoughts and quickly heal the wounds of parting, do what you love, take your mind off unpleasant thoughts. Take care of yourself, go shopping, sign up for dancing or sports, choose some new hobby for yourself. This will help you not only take your mind off bad thoughts, but also make new acquaintances, new friends who will provide you with psychological support and assistance.

If you continue to need psychological assistance, understand yourself, ask yourself, what do you need? Perhaps there are long-standing grievances hidden in your soul, words unspoken to the man with whom you broke up. Maybe there are still unclear situations in the relationship, promises that haunt you and that you need to sort out and understand their essence. In this case, you can talk with the man who left you, or, if this is not possible, with a psychologist, mother or friend. Talk to a person you trust, at the same time understand yourself and analyze the situation that happened. Perhaps your interlocutor will help you understand some of the issues that are bothering you.

Don’t allow yourself to be sad, distract yourself from negative thoughts - this is the main psychological help that any specialist will advise you. The most important thing is don’t doubt yourself and don’t let your self-esteem fall. Most women have experienced such situations, but they struggled. And they emerged as leaders, coping with their sadness. Why can't you? Never doubt your importance and yourself. The fact that a man left you is not a reason to hang your nose. Accept the situation as an everyday one, cope with your emotions, continue to love and pamper yourself, make pleasant purchases for yourself, communicate with people you like and quickly forget your failures. You need to extract only useful things from them: gain more and more experience in relationships, realize your mistakes, study different situations and life itself.

If your husband left you. How to survive...

My husband left me: this is not the end, this is the beginning... Unfortunately, our lives are sometimes very unpredictable. It would seem that you are going with the flow, everything is smooth and calm, but in an instant everything turns upside down, the dearest and closest people hit us painfully, pain obscures the eyes and mind, and it seems there is no strength to breathe and live. Lush white dress, flowers and cloudless happiness... At least that’s what it seemed like when you married this man. And it could not have occurred to you that this person, dear and loved, could hurt you by betraying what is most precious to you - your love. But, alas, this happens often in our lives. The pain of a deceived and abandoned woman can only be understood by those who have been in such a situation themselves. And they were able to find a way out, to survive this mental trauma. Undoubtedly, it is very difficult to overcome this bitterness, but it is possible. First, you need to cry, free your soul from pain, it’s good if a close friend or sister is nearby, and speak out completely. After this, although not much, it will become easier. Then the realization will slowly come that you are beginning a new life. You should always try to be in company, find an exciting activity for yourself, for example, you couldn’t afford to attend dance classes or anything like that before - please! Now you have a lot of free time, which you previously spent on your husband, it’s time to pamper yourself with your beloved! If you have children, then organize joint leisure time. This will help you and your children take your mind off difficult thoughts, and the children will tolerate their father’s betrayal more gently. You need to give all your attention to them, because the meaning of life - your children - remains with you. They just need your love, care and support. If you don’t want to live, then remember that you simply must pull yourself together for the sake of your little ones. If it gets really bad, then it’s better to contact a qualified psychologist. In the event that you haven’t had time to have children with this person, then all your attention should go to yourself and to those who need your help. After all, everything that happens is for the better! Get a kitten or a dog and focus your attention on taking care of these cute creatures. In addition, cats are great stress relievers. Go shopping or even relax by taking time off from work. And if you absolutely love your job, then immerse yourself in your work, discover new things, improve yourself! Perhaps at first there will be melancholy, but over time everything will change. Life does not stand still. Look at yourself from the outside, stand in front of the mirror. Raise your self-esteem. And even better - change your image, wardrobe, throw away everything old and unnecessary, if you don’t raise your hand to empty your home of his gifts, joint photographs, ask a loved one to hide it all somewhere far away. Become useful to people, do good deeds. Let self-respect come with the recognition of others. In return, people will give you support and understanding. The main thing is not to be alone with your painful thoughts. Remember, in order to be saved, you need to make efforts to be saved. Think about whether it is worth continuing to suffer because of a person who betrayed you so painfully, because now he is unlikely to suffer and suffer. Try to believe that fate weeds out unnecessary people. You have gained experience, but you cannot lose trust in people. Live for yourself, for your children! Love is love, but you cannot dissolve in a person, you need to be firmly aware of what is happening to you and what it can lead to. Over time, you will look at this whole situation with a more sober look. Sometimes it seems to us that this is the end, but often it is only the beginning, the beginning of a new happy life without people who did not love us, deceived us, betrayed us.

My dear, gentle and wonderful women!

This topic appears so often in my work that perhaps it’s time to write instructions.

So, if your husband left you, then the rose-colored glasses of illusion have finally broken
to pieces, oh harsh slabs of reality... Congratulations! with the acquisition
CLEAR_VISION, finally...

First, and most importantly, this fact must be ACCEPTED. Because it has already happened. And you have NO choice NOT TO ACCEPT.

From recognizing the fact, it becomes easier - hopelessness, in general, you know, is a very fair thing.
You can fill yourself with tears, for days, for months. But the tears will end
and still you will need to wash your snot and face the truth - husband
abandoned me.

Stupid phrase, isn't it?

They throw things. If you are a thing - were or became such - ok, you can
to throw means that you have allowed yourself to be a thing that can be thrown. AND
there is no need to tell here what kind of heroine you were three times at home
farms named after all pots! Nobody needs this. And to him. He generally
GONE.

So, with sincere confession we figured it out - kilograms of valerian
Vduli, the same amount of Corvalol and cognac with friends. Couple of weeks.
What's next?

Tears. Calls. Tears. Tears. Mats. Calls. Humiliation. Begging. Cursed. Threats. Tears. Mats..... ...

Or rather, what is all this for? what's on top? for whom? for the one who
abandoned? what for? Is there any point in tears and swearing? calls and threats?

The first thing I always, 100% say in consultation with EVERY WOMAN,
who “my husband abandoned me” - THAT’S HOW LUCKY YOU HAVE TO BE! MY HUSBAND LEFT US!

Now you can do anything!!! And most importantly, understand for yourself that I am
turned out, ha ha, not such a dirty brute like him! (or variations
on the topic...) and now I will begin to live my life (or improve it) as I do
I want it!

You see, suffering over the topic “my husband left me” is a reflex of a lost dog.

Suddenly left without an owner.

Well, cry, curse, call, humiliate yourself. If you are an animal. Then, of course, you don’t need to read the article further.

And if you get it, read it, here it is:

If your husband left you, it means he left and left suddenly (wow! head
dizzy from new possibilities!!!) Your life, this means that your
“tomorrow” will be completely different.
Of course, at first there will be “Withdrawal”, at the sight of “His-ever-favorite-socks” and
tears drip-drop, started running again.....the same way, tears at the sight of "
His-all-favorite-Beer...football and blah blah, so on... Then it will be
hysterical when they call to invite you and Golopupkin to visit.
You'll have to howl into the phone... yes, that's an expense, well, you've been there for a long time
the property of Golopupkin, of course... among his circle of acquaintances it remained
habit of inviting you both... But how do they know that your life
changed? and there is no point in screaming and crying - just say so - golopupkin
Now he walks on his own, and I walk on my own.

This is a digression, lyrical, so to speak.

The whole point is that among the stupid habits of a woman, out of boredom and mental
poverty, of course, has the habit of closing your entire world on a man.
And the whole difficulty is that the man also gets tired of this vacuum.
Well, they don’t need us to dissolve in them like soup cubes, down to the last grain of sand.
Yes, we need a container, like any water (a woman is ideally WATER,
BEARING LIFE, preserving it and reviving it, and if you wish
Being a swamp for a while is not a question, the choice is yours).
But we don’t ask the Architects of our world if they need it!? Actually...

Total. Never, under any circumstances, lock yourself into
chains called: “the whole world is MY man” - in this sentence
all errors.

Firstly, a man, in the amount of one piece, is not the whole world.
Secondly, you asked him, does he want to be your world? I'm from
I know the answer from practice - 120% of 100% “NO” they said, we don’t need it, they say, neither
whose world to be, you know, this is a responsibility, and you know, we are brave
guys, we killed a lot of mammoths, but as for the responsibility in
areas of feelings - nature, here is ours, a little cowardly and most importantly
justified, again, by polygamy....
Thirdly, a man, like a child, is NOT PROPERTY, or
property that has its own opinion and decides independently who
belong ONLY BY YOUR WILL.
And if the will of your property, in the form of a Man, has left your life -
THIS IS ALSO HIS FREE WILL, well, or a love spell, but this is a fundamental matter
doesn't change.

After all, if they gave him a love spell, it means, unfortunately, that he is NOT
Your property, he decided long ago and without you, and even if you remove the love spell
, take all the antidepressants in the world and then miraculously avoid cancer (that’s what they teach
modern specially trained psychologists say it is necessary to forgive betrayal and
this, they really don’t know - women like that get sick of cancer
Then...)

You can forgive betrayal if you manage to do it TRUELY, finding the strength within yourself, to BOTH overcome this crisis.
But to defeat anything, you need to know the enemy by sight. JUST RECOGNIZING YOUR DEFEAT IS A WAY TO HEALING, by the way.
This is only if TWO people want to live together further, then, of course, we look for a clean slate in our minds and move forward.
But this is if there is love, and any other arguments do not work here. It's strange
I am convinced by couples - we have children, they say, it’s a habit and it’s just scary to change
way of life - every person strives for stability in his
life, that's a fact.

But is there stability in chronic betrayals, lies and playing family?

I wouldn't say so. LOVE gives stability to any relationship - it either
either there is or it is not. What is this? hmm...how can I tell you...everyone has it and
Each person has their own, or two people have it the same, and he will tell you which one
only everyone.

So this means that we have drawn a line to the conclusion of the Light Logos - a man is not
the whole world, do not limit the concept of happiness in your life to it,
making synonymous with the concept: “happiness is a man.”
A man can increase happiness with (or supplement) happiness from the concept
TO BE, but not to be that same happiness. After all, so, deep, right there, where
the truth lives in your soul, you know that you will have to experience it and
live on yourself or another, right?

So again, you have no choice. Existence and the blade of a knife, this
in general, the strongest charge of energy in life - when bam, you fly with such
abyss, and you realize that here they are, wings are growing!

Cry, my dears, cry as much as you like, squeeze everything out of yourself.
offended because the year before last, I was a fool, I refused that guy
at the resort! and didn’t go with him!,.. eh! Now it wouldn’t be a shame... Or
cry because you, at this time, are the most insignificant of all the most
insignificant beings in the entire Cosmos and therefore he you
threw it... this, of course, kills the spirit greatly, but poison in small doses is medicine.

As soon as you finish crying and the last tear drops - here, I hasten to bring
bright truth into your life: He left you not because you gained weight
/ has become dull / has become coarse / has become stupefied and so on.. And what, he, in general,
Did you find slate in that shop? ..and so on, the variations are endless...

HE LEFT YOU BECAUSE HE FOUND ANOTHER SOMEONE

Not worse, not better, just DIFFERENT

This is in the nature of men - my friend, astrologer, Victor Basilei told me this truth
beautifully said: “Every woman is looking for a BETTER man, and every man
looking for ANOTHER woman" - he may not be the author of the words, but what words!

By the way, they contain the truth.

So don’t worry, since you are left alone at last, throwing off the yoke of many years of yoke - ENJOY!!!

By the way, every man strives to enslave a woman - this happens
unconsciously, it's a reflex, an instinct, whatever you want, but they all try
look after us, think for us, advise and decide...to guide our
life. Because we ourselves are nothing. We don’t know how, no matter how many years we live
on this planet or others, no way... You just have to accept it and
smile that signature smile that blows away all men in a radius
Chernobyl zone, with the same symptoms - jaw drops, hair
on end and stuff like that)

So here it is. Now let's play a game: take a piece of paper. A4 will do, maybe not fresh, what's up...

Write two columns.

First, write “I choose to suffer” (you can use a black felt-tip pen to make the situation even more gothic)

In the second - “I choose to live” (there are butterflies, flowers and everything pink in
a woman's life, except for rose-colored glasses - drawing them is prohibited!)

First, write what your days will be like if you choose tragedy...

Do you know what will happen there?

Tears - write 500 liters at once to impress. Think about what will happen to
skin and body (what if you still have to fall in love again??? who
will you need such a turtle?), what size will your swollen tires be?
eyes and nose? what kind of nasty nasality will the voice take on? A? Do you need it?
if necessary, no question, choose sufferers, in case you are a pervert, who will you
knows... So then it turns out that the man ran away to another pervert - it
Do you need the next one to escape?

Write the word MADNESS - that’s where you risk ending up when you run out
tears, valerian and cognac. Do you need it? what about children? and parents? Are you talking about them?
thought, or the vector of attention is only directed inward and you are fixated on
only their suffering? and the whole world will wait? Nothing like that. At the world
your schedule and plans. But if you are a pervert, then of course, if it’s a vacation
There is nowhere else to spend it - choose a madhouse. It has its advantages - you can
draw pictures as much as you like and not explain to anyone why you are fishing
non-existent butterflies - everyone understands there and increases the dose of drugs,
gradually turning your brain into jelly... after all, the man left, why do you need
from now on your brain???

Well, of the delights, also, as options: alcoholism, poverty, loss
work, depression - and again there are options - madhouse, hospital, cemetery....

If you get tired of painting such colorful pictures in your mind, and
the leaf will end, in the column suffer, remember that there is a column LIFE

Choose life? bewilderment? I have to convince you that you still need
Your life? Find enough arguments to explain what is in it
beautiful WITHOUT A MAN? who-left-me?

Yes, everything about it is wonderful, if only because it will be a new life, and
Every new relationship enriches us with life experience, which means that
in our chest of life values, there will be new crystals of wisdom. AND
in general, in a new life, there are OTHER MEN who will give a new
experience, NEW LOVE, NEW WOMAN IN YOU!

And, if it’s not enough, this, my opus, come, I’ll show you
in detail, where did you go astray from the true path, in terms of where on
on the roads of life you have lost yourself.

So, congratulations, reading these lines, Holy Woman! From now on YOU are Free, and this is SUCH HAPPINESS!

After all, happiness is not so difficult to find in this - happiness is in the awareness of your happiness.

So, my dear brooches, we wash our angelic face, paint it,
We dress in an incredible-never-before-allowable-dress and
we set up dates in batches, no matter with whom, for half an hour, at home (I
I did - it helped me regain my self-esteem! appointed at home with
every hour and just admired myself through the eyes of men, I
I remembered what it’s like to flirt, for example... and listen to compliments)

There are a couple of rules that need to be followed:

• Don’t curse him after all, he left - the offense will also go away. Curse him
  -You're causing damage to yourself. And to him. Do you need it? Thank him (you can
  children), light a candle for health, and inside for peace, for
  He “died” you, remaining in the past, take with you only the light
  memory of him.

• Do not seek a meeting, do not humiliate yourself, do not beg

With the question “How can I cope with my husband leaving me?”» Questions similar to his are often addressed to me by those women who are left alone with their own loneliness after their husband leaves. And whatever the circumstances in each situation in particular, it is always a tragedy.

A tragedy, first of all, because an abandoned, abandoned (an ugly word in this situation, that’s why I don’t want to use it) woman feels as if crushed by a heavy slab of some kind of “second-classness”, that she is “not like that”, “not the same” , “falls short of something and for some reason.”

Yes, in each specific case, it is better to understand the situation and harmonize it in the company of a competent specialist who is not only concerned with all this “why-why-why-why?!” will answer, but will also carry out appropriate wise professional manipulations so that the woman can get out of the trap of her own low self-esteem, I stopped being a hostage to this situation, and finally began to live more fully.

However, there are several points, from the perspective of new conscious views on life, that you definitely need to know, if suddenly in your life an unpleasant episode related to , has happened, or is just in the midst. It is important not to forget that we, with our thoughts, beliefs, beliefs and emotions, and everything that is in it is a reflection of what we think about ourselves and this world.

Just like the people around us, especially those closest to us, project “mirrors” with their attitude and behavior, reflecting us back to us. This may not necessarily be a direct mirror, when, for example, you receive an embittered, aggressive attitude from your spouse towards yourself, and at the same time you do not see what you are doing with someone else (not necessarily with your husband, although it may be with him) himself no less defiantly and aggressively, sacredly trusting in his rightness and justification to do so.

Sometimes a husband, for example, conveys his behavior and shows his wife her true attitude to the situation and to herself. That is, no matter how wild it may sound to the untrained ear, subconsciously you yourself wanted your husband to leave you. But the reasons why this happened is the second question.

Why did my husband leave?

In the difficult, difficult era of Kali, which has already happily passed, and the doors behind which we closed in 2012, the main spiritual task of a husband and wife was to overcome the difficulties of family life, through conflicts, through negativity, and through unresolved situations that often emerge ancestors of the Family or your own previous incarnations, still come out into love, acceptance and harmony.

Husband and wife, throughout almost the entire course of their life together, were like “sharpening stones” for each other, who, through pain and suffering, polished each other and gave their souls a unique facet by the end of their lives.

Therefore, marriage in the era of Kali, although it was veiled with romantic attributes, and also generously flavored with physical hormonal reactions of the body (passion, love, but what! Without them, everyone would have run away from each other and no one would have passed their lessons), but it marked marks the beginning of a by no means easy life period, on the way of which there are much fewer roses and lush blossoms than sharp thorns.

Now, in times turning towards the Light, the need to be “sharpening stones” has disappeared, all the necessary complex experience has already been collected by higher Powers, and our task in marriage is already completely different - to find love outside through self-love.

But some souls, for some important reasons known only to them, need to play out these roles of “departed husband” and “abandoned wife” in this incarnation, and here it is important to know the following.

First. You must simply accept as an axiom that you are playing a role. We have many roles. We are simultaneously a wife, a mother, someone’s daughter, an employee at work, a housewife, a friend, and many more.

But, despite the fact that we spend almost every minute of our lives on stage, it turns out that we can leave it. Just mentally distance yourself from any situation, move to the “parterre”, becoming a spectator. Just a person. This gives enormous strength and allows you to see many things from a completely different perspective, leaving unnecessary emotions behind.

Second point- this is a desire to understand what true parts of your “I” your husband reflected by leaving you. Therefore, posing the question “Why is it good in my life that I myself created such a situation that my husband left me” will be the most correct one.

Exactly “for what good”. Because we are wisely designed in such a way that we simply cannot harm ourselves without greater benefit from this for us. Or in other words, the benefit from some external circumstances, even at first glance tragic for us, is still greater than the harm. Therefore, the fact that your husband left you has significant benefits for you. Which?

My beloved husband left me, what should I do?

You can answer this question honestly for yourself, or a competent specialist will help you, since sometimes the reasons for such “benefit” can be so painful that pulling them out alone is not an easy task. For someone, the real reason may be significant dissatisfaction with themselves, a latent confidence that she is not worthy of the attention and love of a good man in her life.

Someone, being in this marriage, cannot accomplish some life tasks that they want to accomplish. For example, a wife secretly dreams of being a “person of the world”, traveling around the world, and is passionate about volunteer ideas, while her husband, on the contrary, is comfortable in his usual habitat.

And the wife, who was taught from childhood that she needed to be a “good girl”, and then an “exemplary wife” (roles again), that “family is the main thing”, that “for a woman to leave her family is a terrible sin”, latently, subconsciously and, unnoticed by herself, creates conflict situations and pushes her husband to take this decisive step.

The result is a painful breakup, tragedy, a period of depression, then the logical next period of “rising from the ashes” and an unexpected (for the brain, but not for the Soul) desire to reshape your life completely, to start living in a new way, in a different country, in a different activity. .

There can be very, very many true reasons why a woman benefits from her husband’s departure. But there is only one truth. By accepting reality and responsibility for the fact that you yourself created this situation, you get the opportunity to steer it.

Having understood the true reasons and benefits and beneficially transformed them, you will be able to build your life reality in a completely different way. Without taking it to extremes, you can or prevent his departure.

And perhaps at some point you will suddenly discover that the veil of obsession dictated by being “in the role” has fallen, and you no longer feel any connection with your husband, you feel at ease and good. This means that your soul has passed this lesson and closed the door behind the past difficult experience.

Goodness and blessings to all of you.

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