How to punish a girl for bad behavior. Instructions for men: How to properly punish a woman if she behaves badly. Bondage and forced orgasm

We bring to your attention 5 useful tips that will help you teach your beloved girl a lesson for disrespect. Study them to regulate your relationship.

This is what Maxim writes to us.

I love my girlfriend very much, trying to adapt to her noisy mood. If he wants to go to the cinema, please. To the disco - no question. For all this I don't ask for much. The main thing for me is that they respect me, and not threaten to leave for a “broader guy”. I don’t know how to teach a girl a lesson without offending her? I really ask for your help,” the guy formulates his request.

Oh, this love is unselfish and real...

Dear Maxim.

I don’t want to invite a familiar expert to a discussion.

Let the person rest on a well-deserved vacation.

Do not consider it immodest, but I will try to give you 5 useful tips, aimed primarily at not teaching the girl a lesson, but accustoming her to heartfelt respect and understanding.

1). Tell me, Maxim, not in a hurry, but thoughtfully...

Does Marina really love you?

If this is so, then how does her love manifest itself? How is it expressed? selfless feeling?

I will be very sorry if her attitude towards you is built from the position of a consumer.

2). Try to gain strength and refuse your beloved girl.

Refer to the fact that you are sick and feel quite unwell.

Watch what her response will be.

An understanding and loving person must behave correctly.

3). When disrespect is accompanied by a hint of leaving for another guy, this means either impudent blackmail or his real presence.

Please be firm and let her know that she is free to do as her heart tells her.

And carefully add that your person will not remain lonely - for one simple reason, that you are a man.

Let Marina think a little about whether she should respect you.

4). Having carefully studied your letter, I concluded that you are characterized by an exculpatory manner during a conversation.

Change it to an affirmative tone.

You love a girl, that's why you follow her lead.

To teach a lesson in this case means to develop the character of a leader, not an egoist.

Maxim, forgive me, but you lack this quality a little.

5). You can teach your beloved girl a lesson for disrespect through forced coldness.

In your case, it's too hard.

Not wanting to hurt a loved one, you get used to the role of executor of whims, like a faithful page without demanding anything in return.

Puzzle your dear Marina with requests more often.

Eradicate her disrespect by competently managing long-term relationships.

Unfortunately, girls do not always behave correctly, hang up, deceive, insult. It’s unbearable to endure, but I don’t want to break off the relationship just yet. What to do in this case, how to punish the girl so that she realizes her guilt and changes her behavior?

To understand and to forgive

It sounds a little strange, but it actually works. You must internally forgive the girl who has offended you, otherwise resentment will creep into your every action. And she certainly doesn’t make the guy look good. Feeling her power over your emotions, a girl may begin to manipulate. Therefore, keep your head cool and act logically and prudently.

Tell her: “You have the right to behave as you want, but I don’t have to put up with all this.” And really, think about it, do you need such a relationship? Isn’t it easier now to find someone who will treat you with love and respect? In general, cool your ardor, look around and remember what you don’t need to do (until the conflict is settled):

Skillful trainer

Remember, in order to achieve the correct behavior of a girl, it is important to skillfully use not only the tool of punishment, but also encouragement. Using only one whip, you will only achieve hostility and loss of respect.

“There is a means to prevent crimes - these are punishments; there are means to change morals - these are good examples.” Charles Louis de Montesquieu.

Therefore, do not forget to encourage her good deeds, give compliments, give gifts, etc. And, of course, do not punish just like that, for a trifle (for example, if she was 5 minutes late). But if the offense is serious, without delay, take action:

• deprive of affection, compliments and gifts;
• talk seriously, coldly and calmly;
• look straight into the eyes;
• cut off any hysteria or manipulation in the bud;
• Don't spend a lot of time talking or meeting.

That's basically all, the further course of events depends on the girl. Sometimes she may not react immediately, but this does not mean she has no feelings for you.

Remember that everyone's character is different. In addition, at the beginning of a relationship, couples often test personal boundaries, and if they are not set initially, then consider it a disaster.

A few more words about punishment

From personal experience I will say that training a girl is a thankless task. You can mold an ideal out of her, and tomorrow this happiness will go to someone else. Therefore, it is much more important to establish contact from the very beginning and learn to talk openly about everything and find compromises. Of course, it’s much easier to shout or ignore, but then if you do something wrong, she will do the same.

But if there is no other option and you cannot do without punishment, then make sure that your actions are not dictated by the desire to hurt your significant other (if you plan to continue the relationship). Your only goal should be to protect your own dignity, to learn that you will not tolerate such treatment on her part.

And finally, after waiting for the girl’s repentance, nobly forgive her. Celebrate the reconciliation and try not to remind her of this incident.

Olga, Krasnoarmeysk

The article reconstructs the picture of the spread of shaming punishments for girls who have committed crimes against morality (lost their virginity before marriage). The conclusion is made about the relationship between surveillance of the female body and female sexuality as a fundamental postulate that strengthens gender asymmetry. There are regional differences in the degree of cruelty of shaming punishments for girls: the South and Center of the country are characterized by greater obviousness of gender hierarchies, and the North and remote areas (Trans-Urals, Far East) - less, since here the value of women's life was greater.

This article was originally written by N.L. Pushkareva, entitled “Shameful punishments for girls in traditional Russian culture of the 19th and early 20th centuries as a consequence of gender asymmetry,” was published in the journal “News of the Far Eastern Federal University. Economics and Management” (Issue No. 3 / 2009).

Like most other aspects of private life, sexuality has always been engulfed by the expansion of power systems. It is not surprising, therefore, that “infidelity” and “honor” are concepts that acquired gender connotations along with the emergence of gender asymmetry (historically the first form of social deprivation). The concept of “maiden honor” turned out to be loaded with gender meaning early on (almost soon after the establishment of Christianity) and to this day is perceived precisely as the observance of chastity.

This work will examine shameful punishments for girls - those that put female sexuality under control. Mentions of disgraceful punishments for girls can first be found in Russian sources no earlier than the end of the 15th and beginning of the 16th centuries. Apparently, at first they concerned only representatives of the wealthy classes in the central part of Russia, but gradually spread more widely. Our goal was to clarify how widely they have spread; what are the geographical specificities of practices of stigmatizing, gendered violence against transgressions related to the female body; how long they existed, what transformations they experienced; how they relate to the modern history of gender asymmetry.

As in ancient times, in the 19th century. a girl’s faulty behavior was considered a lesser sin than the betrayal of a married woman. Responsibility for deflowering was placed on her herself: “compliance” was considered excusable if a relationship with a man of a higher status was allowed (even volost clerks, not to mention merchants included them), richer, and seemed especially reprehensible if the girl yielded to the poor , “I was flattered by the man.” Wealth and high social status were understandable motives that forced the girl to “sin.” The situation when a girl was “entangled in love” was completely unexcusable and was attributed to the special depravity of the sinner.

In the central provinces, for the wedding of a girl who could not maintain her virginity, in the 19th century. It became customary to give a special cleansing prayer, after which the guilty person was given a cleansing memory from the priestly elders - they were in charge of cases of illegitimate births. Sometimes - this was the path to repentance - the priest prescribed penance. The one who sinned three times had to crawl around the church on her knees. There is evidence that already at the beginning of the 20th century. Among the Russian population, say, in Ukraine, this method of vilifying and disgracing the young has almost disappeared and “instead, the priest often obliges the young woman to work for him for several days.”

Let's consider what the shameful punishments for failure to preserve newlywed virginity were and who was subjected to them.

The instigator of shameful punishment was often a guy abandoned by a girl, a neighbor offended by inattention; It was he who brought up the “case of grievance” for discussion at the village gathering. In the reports about the fines imposed on the parents at the gathering (they could also take alcohol), nothing was said about ways to check the “honesty” of the girls, unless it was a question of a wedding ritual. Very often, a rumor about dishonesty was first started, then discussed at the gathering - the very act of drawing attention to the girl’s physical condition was already a “shame.”
In many Central Russian provinces (Vologda, Yaroslavl, Kaluga), the most important act at a wedding feast was the demonstration of the bride’s “honesty” or her admission of guilt: if the newlywed confesses that she has lost her virginity and, bowing, asks for forgiveness from her father, mother, father-in-law and mother-in-law, reprisals and There are no dishonorable rituals. Otherwise, the performance of rituals designed to disgrace the mother, father and even the entire relatives of the bride goes on as usual.

In Lithuania and Little Russia it was the custom to punish girls who violated chastity by placing them on an iron chain at the church door (marten, “in shackles”). The folk wedding ritual there included a demonstration of the bride's shirt (occasionally, even her appearance in front of guests in a shirt with blood stains, and in it she had to sweep the floor with the remains of bottles broken in her honor; more often, the wedding shirt was taken out and, having been shown, along with a quarter wine and good wishes were given to the girl’s parents).

Chastity or unchastity was to be discovered early on Monday or at night from Sunday to Monday during the wedding feast. The ritual was performed before cutting the roast, “and without that they wouldn’t cut it.” The main sign indicating that the groom found the bride chaste (if the shirt was not taken out) was the breaking of dishes, glasses, glasses - a symbol of successful violation of the integrity of the main girl’s “treasure”. A wedding without breaking dishes in the Nizhny Novgorod region was considered “not fun” (it meant the beginning of disgrace).

In the Kaluga province there was also a reverse custom. There, the young man was supposed to break dishes, “break and gnaw” spoons as a sign of disappointment at the “unsafety” of the bride. Only the newlywed and his clan could condemn the unchastity of the bride, and women of the husband's clan - the husband's mother and sisters, daughters-in-law - had a special right to shame. The beating of his wife by a young man with a whip for not preserving her virginity is described in the literature of the 19th century, but there is no data on its prevalence; rather, the newlywed's concealment of his chosen one's offense was typical.

In the Cherkasy district of the Kiev province, the unchaste bride had to be punished by the groom's mother: she had no right to go to the wedding table, but had to crawl under it on her knees and show her face from there. “[The groom’s] mother, whenever... [the daughter-in-law] puts her head forward, hits her in the face... until her husband forbids it.” Only then was the young woman allowed to get out from under the table and sit next to her husband.

Disgrace of the father of a girl who did not retain her virginity was rare, but still there were isolated cases (by the decision of one volost court in the Kamenets district it was decided to subject the father to punishment with rods for the offense of his daughter, who gave birth to an illegitimate child; similar cases were noted in the Kineshma district). On the Don, a common way of defaming parents who did not preserve their daughter’s virginity was to sing shameful songs, put a wreath of straw or bagels around the neck, present the mother or, if the bride was an orphan, the teacher with a herring or ram (instead of a chicken, which was placed on the lap of the mother or teacher , - gratitude for saving your daughter or pupil from temptations). In the Kaluga province, it was the mother of the newlywed who was shamed first of all, and not herself; it was the mother who could be harnessed to a harrow and carry this harrow along with them around the village. Finally, it was also possible to disgrace the matchmaker (instead of the parents or together with the parents of the girl who did not preserve her honor). In Sviyazhsk (Volga region) there was a ritual of the “matchmaker’s boyfriend”: she, having matched a dishonest bride, was laid on a bench on the street, her hem was lifted and she was beaten with a broom, sprinkling snow on her body. It is important to emphasize here: for the “dishonesty” of one woman, it was again the woman (mother, teacher, matchmaker) who had to bear responsibility. In the Vitebsk province, collars of shame were put on by friends, parents, and matchmakers (“and led around the village, with the harness of the collar dragging along the ground”).

In some places, a collar was hung on the gate or on the roof of the house of the sinning bride, in others - a daub, in others - a matting; they smeared the walls of the house with sewage or stained them with mud; they punched a hole in the stove; windows were broken. Sometimes the disgrace was expressed in the fact that one of the wedding “boyars” climbed onto the roof of the bride’s hut with a bucket of water and splashed it from there - a symbolic sign of the newlywed’s intemperance, her readiness to give herself to anyone so that everyone gets it (like splashes of water). There is evidence that in other places they dragged a broken wheel or, if it happened in winter, an old sleigh onto the roof of a house. All actions were accompanied by verbal abuse.

The most common punishment was putting a horse collar “without tugs” (ropes, other parts of harness) around the neck - a symbol of “brutality”, closeness to the animal world and at the same time the antipode of a flower wreath - a symbol of virginity. Putting on a collar was also a modified, humane form of harnessing to a horse (this was done with married women) as an act of pacification. In addition, the collar symbolized the vulva. It could be hung on a nail hastily driven in above the lintel, or more often it was placed around the neck of not only the guilty bride, but also her parents. For such a case, they even hastily made several straw “collars, smeared with resin and various nasty things.” A collar was made from straw in Little Russia. The girl’s hair would be untied, her face could be covered with a scarf, and she would be paraded through the streets like that. Sometimes, as a sign of shame, they exposed her legs, “tying her dress to her belt with straw ropes.” The custom of dishonor with a collar placed around the neck quickly spread among other peoples inhabiting Russia.
Typical dishonorable actions were also the following: staining a girl’s shirt with soot or tar (which, due to its black color, was also a symbol of dishonor and evil in peasant life), and walking through the streets in a soiled shirt without a skirt. There is evidence from informants that they smeared the shutters and walls of the house with tar with the words: “If you love, then love one,” thereby indicating that life should have been built with the culprit of the dishonor. It is important to recognize the caveat that “ridiculous punishments” were applied to the girl when “there was the consent of her parents and relatives”: some parents did not allow their daughter to be shamed in such a way and paid off, while others, on the contrary, came to the meeting and asked for volume .

The oldest (known since the 15th century) way of disgracing a bride during a wedding feast was to “give the parents a “thin” (i.e., bad, holey) goblet of wine, a pancake torn in the middle, and tie a thin bucket to the arch of the cart.” It happened that a holey pot was placed on the heads of the matchmakers and the father of such a bride. The lexeme “thin” in Russian means both “bad” and “leaky.”

In the Olonets province, wedding rituals associated with the girl’s honor were scheduled for the next morning, when the young man with his boyfriend and matchmaker were supposed to receive scrambled eggs from their mother-in-law. If the bride was chaste, the yolk of the fried egg was cut out, and the groom poured oil into the resulting hole, and broke the cup from which he poured it. If not, the scrambled eggs were cut into pieces. In Polesie, an unchaste bride and her relatives were given unsweetened and sometimes just salty porridge - everything was supposed to express the unsweetness of life with the offender, her lack of integrity, raggedness, and inferiority.

In the Arkhangelsk province, to shame a girl who illegally adopted a child, by the end of the 19th century. became not accepted, but she could be excommunicated from her parents’ home, from the friendship of other women. If the bad rumor about losing her virginity was confirmed, then the girl, according to the general verdict, had to wear her hair in two braids without a girl’s bandage, and cover it with hair (hence the term “roll-up”). The ritual of the “veil” in the south of Russia and Little Russia was not so much disgraceful as it smoothed out the girl’s sin: putting on a different headdress showed the girl’s transition to another age group, and she could no longer braid a girl’s braid (hence the Polesie expression “having combed the braid all the way through” ) .

The further from the center and southern Russia, the more permissive the attitude towards deflowering. If in the Kaluga province “there were no cases when a girl, having an illegitimate child, got married,” then in Tverskaya “no public shaming of someone who turned out to be unchaste” was not arranged. There is no evidence that there was any systematicity in the rituals of shame for girls in the Kazan province - there at the end of the 19th century. In general, there was a saying: “They take a wife from the start.” In the Perm region, parents did not see anything wrong with girls being in search of anyone before marriage, and in the Mezen district (North), where dumping sin existed, the innocence of a girl was generally valued little: the one who gave birth was more likely to find a husband.
There were no shaming rituals in the Russian North, but virginity was valued. In Siberian villages remote from the center, it was the same: in conditions of an overabundance of men, the possibility of intimate relationships with a woman was valued not only in words, but also in deeds (among gold miners and ore miners). The parents of girls, who sometimes received large compensation for the unpreserved virginity of their daughters, had their own benefit: the child of a girl daughter did not dishonor her at all, he was willingly raised, answering those who reproached: “Spit does not spoil the sea.”

The central, southern, southwestern, and partly western regions of Russia are a different matter. Until 1861, landowners, to shame the offender there, ordered her to “cut her braid” - cutting was still the most common of the ignominious punishments for women.
Traditions associated with maintaining the idea of ​​​​the high value of virginity before marriage until the middle of the 19th century. preserved in Rostov, Poshekhonsky, Vladimir, Dorogobuzhsky (Smolensk province) and many other districts. But already in 1841, one of the Kaluga observers wrote: “Chastity does not have much value in the eyes of our people... and in many provinces the ancient custom of opening the bed of young people has already been destroyed. Father and mother say to the groom: “Whatever is there, take it, but what you don’t find, don’t look for it!” . Ordinary wisdom regarding the chastity of a girl in the Vologda province, although it focused on maintaining moral purity, but if this failed, it did not require public insults (“unless the husband beats you”) and bullying.

By the end of the 19th century. the loss of virginity was no longer a fact that had to be made public. And if a premarital pregnancy was managed to be “covered up with a crown”, they tried not to raise the question of what happened before it. In the Vologda region, a pregnant daughter was also given a cow as a dowry - “to feed the baby.”

It is difficult not to notice the growing acceptability of premarital relations among young people in the Kostroma province. If at the beginning of the 19th century. relatives disgraced the girl with words, then at the end of this period the young woman could answer all the reproaches quite sharply (“This won’t make you fade”).
The attitude towards observing the rules when marrying unchaste brides in the Yaroslavl province has changed: the grooms have “excuses”, the meaning of which boils down to the fact that the bride has not become worse. In addition, if earlier old-timers said that a girl who gave birth to a child could only marry the father of this child, now more and more often after the birth of an illegitimate child, strictness receded: the girl was forgiven for her mistake, humanity took precedence over the moral principle (“Sin and misfortune , with whom I have not been!”). But ideally, of course, the girl had to try to “resist” until the crown.

By the turn of the century, folk tradition had developed a ritual to remove the vain accusation of a girl of dishonest behavior at a village gathering (if the girl turned out to be innocent, the participants of the gathering bowed at her feet: “Forgive us for God’s sake, you are not to blame”), as well as gentle ways of making “honesty” public. . Thus, in the Vologda region in 1898, during a wedding, they were already limited to questions and answers in the form of euphemisms (“Did you trample the dirt, did you break the ice?” - to which the groom almost always answered: “He broke the ice,” “if he didn’t want to make it public.” ""). In the upper Volga region, the Far East and Siberia, instead of a bloody shirt, they simply brought out a bottle or even a broom tied with a red ribbon, a pie with a bunch of red berries to the guests, and laid a red towel under their feet. If “wickedness” was discovered, there was no shouting or noise - but black ribbons were tied to the bottles, and black flags were hung outside the house.

In the conditions of revolutions and wars of the beginning and especially the middle of the 20th century. the attitude towards punishments for dishonor that dishonor a girl as an obligatory act of retribution began to blur. Under Soviet rule, however, the theme “Shame is the same as death” turned out to be unexpectedly transformed in times of difficult divorces and Stalin’s pronatalist policies aimed at “strengthening the family.” Shameful punishments in a modified form appeared in the years when the private life of individuals increasingly ceased to be such, when extra-work relationships and private intimate relationships became the subject of “debriefing” at Komsomol and party meetings.

The establishment of a “tradition” of public consideration of family crises associated with adultery, discussion (and condemnation) of them in workers and production teams, at party and trade union meetings, continued during the years of Khrushchev’s Thaw. Collective decisions “in fairness”, both earlier and at this recent time of Komsomol meetings, often turned into lynching. The gatherings that disciplined their members went back, according to modern sociopsychologists, to the penitential practices of Eastern Christianity and overlapped (we would add) with the traditions of Russian rural gatherings in Southern Russia, which passed verdicts on the guilt of girls and penalties. In less than a century, such social memory could not easily be eradicated.

In modern Russia of the XXI century. Issues of girlish honor as a category of corporate (girlish) morality, judging by reports, are rarely discussed by girls (but very often discussed - with any return turn, appeal to “traditional values” - by the whole society through the media). This is not surprising: attitudes towards girls’ premarital sexual experiences have greatly modernized, but the presence of at least 11% of men among respondents who would like to see their bride a virgin, and 56% of those who are “indifferent”, is quite strikingly opposed to the absolute majority of women (72%) who dream that the sexual partner chosen as their husband will not only not be a virgin, but also have experience in intimate relationships. The old norms about what is proper and what is allowed prevail - despite the decreasing importance of the virginity factor in the context of the rapid development of forms of contraception and the economic independence of women. The topic of non-permissiveness of “women's freedom” is one way or another present in modern discussions, including on the pages of the media.
This cannot be called anything other than the legacy of a centuries-old tradition.

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With the help of punishment, they raise not only children, but also their other halves. If you know how to punish a girl for her misdeeds, then you can train her so that she will fulfill all your deepest desires and be ideal just for you.

On the other hand, incorrect punishment or even lack thereof can lead to you being treated like a man.

I decided to give a few examples of punishments so that you have an idea of ​​exactly how you should behave in order to maintain respect and strengthen relationships. And you can try them on yourself and choose the one that is suitable specifically for your case. However, you should also know about other possible situations and punishment options - it will come in handy.

How to punish a girl: examples of situations

Ignoring is an ugly personality trait. It’s another matter if the girl wanted to answer your message, but later, and then forgot.

It's best not to ask why she didn't respond to your message (at least until you can claim she's your girlfriend). Because such questions are an indicator of your neediness and lack of moral strength.

Then how can you punish the girl in this case?

I advise you to wait “a couple of days”, and if she doesn’t write anything herself, you initiate communication. True, this time your communication should not be as friendly as it was before: do not answer all her questions yourself and write shorter messages than before.

If she doesn’t respond to your message again, then turn on ignoring for at least a month. If she messes up again, you simply stop all contact and switch to other girls. And you can write to this one again in about six months or a year, writing down her number in the place reserved for such “cases.”

• She raised her tone or insulted her.

This is the “jamb” that cannot be forgiven under any circumstances.

I even know several examples where a guy always punished a girl for something like that, and then ignored the disrespectful conversation. After which the girl noticeably cooled towards him and lost respect.

And it also happens when she not only raises her voice, but openly insults the guy. For example, you can make a harmless joke at her, and she can call you an asshole.

In such cases ask her with a serious expression why she did that. And if she doesn’t give an answer, then give a warning that you “allow this to happen the first time, the second time and never again.”

She may also try to logically justify why she raised her voice at you. Then you ask her another question: “And this gives you the right to talk to me like that?”

You ask these questions for a reason. You should either get an apology from her or just see by her facial expression that she has realized her mistakes.

If you see that she is not going to at least somehow realize her mistakes, then it's important to leave(or simply end the conversation in case of a telephone conversation). You shouldn't be afraid of losing a girl who doesn't respect you. Even if after you leave you never see each other again.

Just waiting and hoping for her to get better, or continuing the meeting/communication is the same as killing self-respect with your own hands.

• I didn't listen.

You told her that you didn’t want her to go to the club with her friends, but she went there to spite you.

Of course, the club is just an example (you should understand that she still needs a little freedom). During the course of the relationship, many situations will arise when she will not listen to you.

In such cases there can be no showdown. Just turn on ignoring for at least a week. And if he doesn’t understand this, then decide for yourself whether you want to continue a relationship with a girl who does not obey her man.

• Arguing with you.

In case of disputes, there is no need to show that it hurts you.

If the argument is completely simple, then just joke with the girl and don’t try to punish. If it’s “difficult,” then you need to make a frivolous punishment.

How to punish a girl jokingly and lovingly?

It’s enough to just tell her: “I won’t communicate with you anymore. You are a mischief. " And make a facial expression as if you are offended, but with a smile.

Often girls laugh in this case, and further arguments either disappear or pass more gently.

The ideal punishment

Now I will tell you how to punish a girl by making her a very serious suggestion not to repeat her mistakes again.

Remember the steps of the “technique”:

1. You make a “shovel face”. Remove all smiles and other nervous facial expressions from your face. Don't be afraid to show your dissatisfaction.
2. In a slow, rough voice, looking straight into her eyes, you ask her a short question: “ Why did you do this now?».
3. In response to her answer, you continue to silently look at her for about 3 seconds, and then simply turn around and leave.

After this, she is unlikely to repeat her mistake, or at least try to understand what she did wrong.

It is advisable to use this method live and only in case of serious “jambs” on her part (the only thing that can be considered frivolous is that she had a little argument with you).

If you want to try to punish her within SMS communication, then you also ask her a short question, and then, regardless of her answer, turn on ignoring for at least 1 day.

Your determination is important in punishment

Girls are designed in such a way that almost every time they try to show weakness. Especially when you are trying to punish them.

They may hint that if you continue to behave this way, she will leave you. Or blame you are that you are “an egoist who thinks only about himself, and does not want to understand her at all.”

But when it comes to your self-respect, about your principles, it is important to “keep your mark” and continue to follow your line until she realizes her guilt. You must learn to understand whether she is ready to agree to your terms or not. If not, then there shouldn’t be a good attitude towards her.

Otherwise, you will lose her respect over and over again. Until there is none left at all.

Now you know how to properly punish a girl depending on the “type” of her offense. The examples I have given have made you more prepared for difficult situations when communicating with a girl, and you will know how you should behave correctly in each of them.

Instructions for men: How to properly punish a woman if she behaves badly

After the note about, our readers are interested in how to punish a woman. Well, first of all, we recommend using Google. If you turn off the “children’s filter” and enter the search query “how to punish your wife” or “how to punish a woman,” you can spend a fascinating lonely evening with photo and video instructions, after which you may no longer want to punish anyone.

If this didn’t help, then nothing really will help. Firstly, because men, as a rule, do not think like women. A woman can harbor a grudge over any insignificant little thing and keep it in her head for a very long time in order to take revenge later with pleasure. It’s easier for a man to just yell and forget. A woman corrects male behavior from the first minute of life together, she does not choose a man, she chooses the dream of an ideal man and molds it “from what was.” This means that she will use a complex system of rewards and punishments to develop positive conditioned reflexes - flowers there, coffee in bed, not marking the territory with worn underwear. A man, as a rule, comes to terms with his own choice and reacts to the absurd behavior of his life partner with a heavy sigh. But nevertheless, if the situation reaches a dead end, there is a simple principle of punishing women, or rather, correcting female behavior. It's called "fear what you wish for."

Flowers every day

All the girls say that it is better to give a rose every day than 365 roses once a year. OK. Let's forget about wholesale discounts and get started. Give her a small rose every day for a month. It doesn’t matter that she loves daisies: we are men, we follow instructions. In just a week, all the vases in the house will be occupied. In ten days she will sense something is wrong. By the end of the month, all the dishes will be occupied, including beer mugs (sigh), tall glasses, tea cups and even a porcelain teapot. Roses will be on all surfaces, including the washing machine and desk. Sweetheart will inevitably become sad, and between attacks of these “microorgasms” she will begin to beg you to stop. Here you need to make innocent round eyes and say: well, you love flowers, right?

Romance

“Dear, our life is monotonous, I miss romance,” she says, meaning that right now you will rent a hotel on the first beach line in Mauritius and buy tickets. Well, what kind of romance is this? You call old friends, take out from the closet a rain jacket with the symbols of a construction team that stinks of sweat and fire, and you go camping with tents. What could be more romantic? The main thing is not to forget to take Vovan with you with a guitar from the Leningrad furniture factory, and that Vovan sing bard songs in a hoarse, soulful voice. “My dear, forest sun.” At this time, you need to put your sweet hand on your knee and look tenderly into your eyes. We guarantee: all this time, the sweetheart will be thinking about the fact that her legs are unshaven, that the last time she washed herself was the day before yesterday, that today she was bitten by mosquitoes in places that are embarrassing to talk about, and that tomorrow she will have to load a backpack on herself again. Very light (we are gentlemen!), no more than 17 kg. If even after that she doesn’t stop talking about romance, we recommend going on an expedition. Archaeological girls, by the way, claim that this is very useful, it makes the breasts grow and become stronger. Romance!

Daily sex

“You don’t want me at all! Why are you lethargic all the time? When was the last time we made love,” she tells you? And here, of course, you want to fly up in righteous anger. Because you have a new project at work, everything is also complicated and her head hurts, a new season of some Homeland has been released, but it turns out that it’s your fault. Stop! Sex is cool and pleasant, a daily dose of endorphins will make you feel better, it's great exercise, and sleep - what's a dream? We'll sleep in a coffin. In short, the best revenge in this situation is a daily routine. In three days she will be bragging about you to her friends. A week later at work she will be asked what happened to her gait and where this clubfoot came from. In ten days she will be VERY surprised. In two weeks, he will begin to hint that he could watch TV. In four years you will fuck her completely, and she will ask for mercy.

Give up the computer

Are you spending too much time on social media and not paying enough attention to her? OK BABY! No, it’s clear that someone is wrong on the Internet, and political fights on Facebook have not been canceled. But no, no. Armchair warriors are on the warpath. We put Facebook aside for a week and... and start talking to her. About her work. About your work. About the international situation. About how good it was during the scoop. Or, conversely, bad. Have a political discussion with her. Finally, talk about tanks. This will end very soon: at some point you will come home, and a smiling wife will be waiting for you, dinner and a laptop standing right in front of the plate. Because a) you won’t tell her anything new, you talked about all the burning topics during the first three dates, b) she’s not interested in dancing at all, c) now she also had to not log into her VKontakte account, not play the “dress up” game fashion model”, do not discuss with indignation how famous TV presenters dress and do not solve other eternal questions of existence.

Dress well

This is a difficult number, but it's worth it. “Why do you always dress like a homeless person?” Well, in particular, my dear, you dress well, I would like to say here. But it will be an insult (and then punishment), so no, let’s make the dream come true. We go to some “Mega” (and yes, reluctantly, we take our sweetheart with us and listen to her advice, answer very politely) and dress well. Expensive. We buy designer jeans. We buy an inexpensive jacket to go with them, about thirty thousand. We buy T-shirts not for 250 rubles, as usual, when old T-shirts decay, but good, thick cotton T-shirts with designer prints. We buy soft, wonderfully flowing lounge trousers so that we don’t have to walk around the house in stretched sweatpants. We spend two-thirds of our salary on this. For the rest of the month we limit ourselves in everything, we eat buckwheat and lentils, we don’t go to restaurants, we don’t buy boots, we answer all questions: “Well, you wanted me to dress well.” If it doesn’t work, you can repeat it next month. And on vacation, go to your mother’s dacha - walk in the forest and fish, while my dear takes care of the potatoes.

Just in case, let us emphasize once again: we men are very peace-loving. We need to de-escalate the conflict and avoid it in the future. We want to live calmly and moderately, scratch our dignity, watch TV, eat borscht, bring home a salary, kiss and hug, and be brainwashed as little as possible. And for this we are ready to do a lot.

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