Test how you feel about life. Life Attitude Test

Using a simple test of 15 questions, determine how you feel about life and how much you have time to realize yourself. Perhaps the moment has long come when it’s worth radically changing everything and starting to have fun.

Life Attitude Test

Answer these 15 questions with “Yes” or “No” only.

1. Do you often feel like you are clearly missing something?
2. Have you not yet realized most of your plans for life?
3. Do you periodically catch yourself thinking that someone else has an interesting life, not you?
4. Do you not have enough activities to spend all your free time usefully?
5. Don't have any achievements to brag about?
6. Do you have talents that you don’t have enough strength, time, energy, or money to use?
7. Does the future seem gray and dull?
8. You cannot be tolerant of others?
9. Don't have time or desire to play sports?
10. Do you feel deeply disappointed when you think about the past?
11. Do other, more successful people annoy you?
12. Do you periodically experience inexplicable aggression or severe irritation?
13. Don’t you have a clear life goal and plan for the coming year?
14. Are you irritated by the slowness or immaturity of people around you?
15. Do you often feel apathetic and unwilling to get up and work in the morning?

For each positive answer to the questions of this attitude test, count one point for yourself and determine their total.

Results of a psychological test on attitude to life

Find out what your results indicate.

1. Scored up to 5 points (inclusive). This is a fairly good result, which indicates that you have already achieved success in many areas. There is no room in life for disappointment and dissatisfaction. You are satisfied with almost everything, and there will be no need for major changes in the near future.

2. Your score is from 6 to 10 points indicates an ambiguous attitude towards life. You feel satisfied in some aspects, but in many respects you have not yet had time to express yourself. Try to spend more time on rest and entertainment, work on self-realization.

3. Result from 11 to 15 points- This is an indicator of the need for change. You are in a state of crisis. It's high time to change what you're not happy with. Start realizing your plans and dreams. Remember that time is a non-renewable resource. Make good use of it.

Don't ignore the results of this psychological test on your attitude towards life. Perhaps the moment has long come when it’s time to change everything.

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Ecology of knowledge. Psychology: I think it's harmful to take life too seriously. Thinking and guessing: “to call or not to call,” “to write or not to write,” “to say or not to say” is harmful. It’s harmful because it takes up time in your life.

I think it's unhealthy to take life too seriously.

Thinking and guessing: “to call or not to call,” “to write or not to write,” “to say or not to say” is harmful. It’s harmful because it takes up time in your life. It’s harmful because these thoughts take you away from really important things: from living in relationships, from your feelings, from your children, from your business. This is building a virtual world in your head, mind games, not real life.

By building strategies: “I will say this - he will answer this, and then I will explain this to him - and let him make decisions,” you will almost certainly not get the result that you are counting on. First, we exaggerate our knowledge of the other person and our knowledge of his reactions. The entire strategy can break down after the very first words. Secondly, sometimes we don’t even know from ourselves what to expect. What can we say about another person who, quite possibly, is also in a state of stress? Thirdly, excessive thoughtfulness very often causes rejection. Another person unconsciously reads that they want to get something from him, and reasonably puts forward defenses so as not to be used. Was the strategy worth your time?

Sincerity and emotionality always give the best effect. Always. Think about it: when you come face to face with someone else's pain, your first unconscious reaction is to help, if you are a normal person with developed feelings, and not a bitter traumatist. If your openness and honesty gave the opposite effect - the person closed himself off, or, worse, closed himself off with aggression, then this is also good - information for you about this person.

I think we need to take life easier. If you want to know something, find out. I want to ask, ask. If you want to speak, tell me. Even if you mess up, God bless him. If you mess up with this person, the other will take it adequately and calmly. With this you will look like a loser, with another you will look like a naive and sweet girl. In life, nothing is ever permanent except life itself. There will always be something more. After these words there will be others, after these actions there will be others, after this person there will be someone else, if you allow yourself to do so.

But there are three nuances in the manifestation of your emotions that I would pay attention to.

The first is to talk about your feelings and what you would like (“I feel bad”, “uncomfortable”, “I feel lonely”, “I would be pleased if you”, “I care if you”, etc. .), and not about what the other person should have done and who he is after what he did not do.

The second thing is not to turn the expression of your feelings and experiences into brainwashing. One topic is spoken once. And third, very subjective, but very important for you, is to focus on the aftertaste.

Every word and action has what I call an aftertaste. If everything is done correctly for you, then a pleasant, warm feeling appears inside that everything is fine. The other one was happy, you are satisfied - everything is fine. If something shouldn’t be done, then such a nasty feeling appears inside that it’s in vain, it would be better to abstain. Although everything is not in vain, even nasty feelings. And the wrong words are also the wrong ones, forgive yourself. Means. at that moment, with that person, the way you were, it couldn’t have been otherwise. This was the best deal.

It’s more difficult with addiction... If you are emotionally dependent on a person, then, most likely, your call or visit “at the call of your heart,” out of melancholy, will later leave a not very good impression and objectively worsen the situation. And if you are relaxed and calm, not attached to the result, then even an SMS in the middle of the night with a desire to discuss something important for you will look quite acceptable and interesting for both you and others.

In fact, there are more ways to approach life than are discussed in the article. Let's look at 3 main reactions using a very typical situation as an example. Everything, of course, is connected with your attitude to what people think.

Energy balance and emotional response

Energy balance - it is always a balance of tension and relaxation, a balance of emotions of joy and anger, fear and trust, laughter and sadness.

As I already wrote in my article, a person’s energy is directly related to his emotions. Literally, energy is emotion. This means that energy balance is always a balance of emotions.

Are you more likely to be tense in response to life or relaxed?

What outweighs stress or relaxation in your life?

The way you react to life is negative emotions or positive, shows how balanced your emotional reactions are that are caused by your assessment of the situation.

Workshop on attitude to life

For execution paragraph 3 It's the hardest and riskiest thing to do because it goes against everything parents have heard about discipline and "bounds of behavior."

But just imagine: You also throw a napkin over your head and also begin to howl: “Uuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu...” The kids absolutely love it, and you all go "oooooooooo" together for a while. Do you know what will happen next? Soon they will get tired of all this, and they will find some other, usually less noisy and more peaceful, activity. And those whose peace they managed to disturb will soon completely forget about it.

3 attempts to change your attitude towards life

Let's stop talking about education, or, if you want, move it to the comments to this article.

Let's take the kids from the psychotherapy workshop as a metaphor for life itself.

Most of us try to control our lives down to the smallest detail. In reality, we use very complex techniques to manage our lives (like a parent from paragraph 1).

But, as the methods you use become more and more cunning, and your craving for comfort becomes more and more desperate, life begins to interfere more and more with all your plans.

I’m afraid that a controlled and “comfortable” life is not the road to wisdom, and neither are the superficial attempts to take control of this life, described in paragraph 2.

Point number 2- this is generally rubbish, not life. Someone who is completely determined to keep their life under control ( paragraph 1), at least there is pressure and a sense of purpose. But trying to manage life without a clear desire and a clear understanding of how it should be done, you find yourself just a sliver in the seething ocean of life. Everything always makes you angry. But not to such an extent as to gather strength and change everything. This is the path to endless suffering.

Surrendering to life ( point 3), that is, having relaxed and not caring about the opinions of others, we begin to create this very life and, like surfers, begin to glide along its waves.

When you are in your life “Put a paper napkin over your head”(or ), several things happen at once:

Firstly, You enjoy it yourself, because the game is really funny, and you have stopped resisting your desire to participate in it.

Secondly, They start to adore you children, perhaps remembering this incident for the rest of their lives (Do you remember something like this from your childhood?).

CONCLUSION: Life likes it when you stop resisting its flow, and it begins to turn its face towards you more often. Ups and downs in it replace each other by themselves and in a completely natural way.

When we gain the courage to loosen our grip on the world... stop wanting so much at once... stop working so hard and desperately pursuing our goals... give up some of the things that are meaningful to us... something magical happens: we begin to receive completely naturally what they wanted from the very beginning, only without any effort.

When you stop wanting everything to be exactly the way you want and relax, life begins to feel so grateful to you that it simply showers you with its gifts.

Listen! What does the bell of life sound like... Ding-ding-zen!

But more on this in future articles.

Some say that you can’t ignore any little thing, otherwise it can later become a big problem. Psychologists, on the contrary, advise that in order to save health, there is no need to attach serious importance to trifles. After all, if you think about it, how many of these small problems can ruin our nerves in just one weekday?

Life consists of seconds that add up to minutes, they add up to hours, days, years, centuries... eternity. And life also consists of moments, actions, events... And who knows what this or that step entails. Another classic of Japanese literature, writer Akutagawa said: “Life is like a box of matches. Taking it seriously is ridiculous; taking it lightly is dangerous.” Of course, paying close attention to every “sneeze” is a rather pointless, utopian activity. After all, you can get stuck in the insignificant without seeing more global and important things behind it. Each of us decides for himself how to relate to the little things in life. But if unpleasant moments turn our existence into hell, then perhaps it’s worth addressing them. Or by yourself? Try on the situations described below and, after passing the test, determine how you feel about the little things in life...

Answer the questions “Yes”, “No” or “When and how”.

1. I get annoyed when I want make a phone call, but the desired number is constantly busy.

2. I get angry when I'm driving and someone constantly gives me advice.

3. It makes me nervous when I notice that I am being watched.

4. I get irritated when someone interrupts my train of thought.

5. I get irritated when I'm talking to someone and the other person constantly interrupts our conversation.

6. I feel bad when I see color combination, which do not fit together.

7. I get irritated when I shake someone’s hand and don’t feel the slightest response.

8. It makes me nervous to talk to a person who knows everything better than me.

Results:

Count the points:
"Yes" - 1 point ,
"No" - 0 points ,
"It depends" - 0,5 points .

More than 6 points:

Little troubles mean too much to you. Perhaps the fact is that you strive to be in complete control of the situation and cannot accept the fact that something does not go as you planned. Or has hidden tension accumulated in you, which is only looking for an excuse to break out?

From 4 to 5 points:

Little things sometimes irritate you, but they don’t overshadow you. great joys of life. You should learn to focus less on them, but so as not to stop seeing the essential details.

Less than 3 points:

An unpleasant little thing can be a symptom of a big problem. If you can actually ignore the annoying fly on your face, but see the banana peel under your feet, then your attention seems to be optimally distributed.